24 Ideas to Make Your Lovemaking Sensational, Special and Exciting
We all must have learned, heard or watched Fifty Shades of Grey and other such movies and stories.
But not many venture out to try something new in bedroom.
It is not necessary that both partners need to be extremely adventurous. One partner can initiate and in most of the cases the other partner will accept as something new in bed is always going to be exciting.
But it is important to get your partner’s consent before trying something hard which could make things uncomfortable when he or she is not ready for it or it could turn out to be too unbearable.
We present here some kinky ideas to shake things up and add spice to your sex life. Whatever may be your sex appetite and your pattern of sex, these ideas are suitable for all types of men and women. Just that, you have to do things your way and in a way that is comfortable to both partners.
Before moving further, kinky sex is an unusual type of sex which involves varying force, intensity, roles and/or using sex toys. It is about crossing the usual boundaries, limits and expectations without compromising safety and comfort levels of both partners.
There is no limit to what one can do to other as long as it is comfortable to the other partner. Needless to say, open communication and getting the consent are foundational requirements to enjoy kinky sex.
Remember, getting the consent need be to ongoing and should happen during various stages of sex. Just because a yes at the beginning of kinky sex, need not apply to the whole session, as situations and intensity changes, you need to know whether your partner is comfortable doing certain things and/or receiving certain things. So, make your conversations continuous.
Let’s get started.
Stand before a mirror or fix a mirror opposite to your bed
Make your partner look at the mirror while you both are eager to perform. When you both are ready and fully aroused after an exciting foreplay, take him or her towards the mirror and make your partner see the sexy look in the eyes and body.
Both partners can take a look at each other’s naked body and this certainly can trigger a rush of hormones leading to an increased intensity of performance.
If possible you can fix mirror on both sides of the bed on the walls so that you both can look at each other during the act of lovemaking. Nothing can get more kinkier than having a mirror on the ceiling.
Talk dirty
Numerous researches have confirmed that women enjoy dirty talk during lovemaking, more than she speaks out, she love to listen to the dirty talk by her partner.
For women, dirty talk can be extremely exciting and erotic. For few women, listening to something naughty can set her body on sexual fire. Listening to dirty talk can make the act of sex all the more enjoyable for women.
Dirty talk involves speaking sweet, hot and hard-core phrases involving her body, her sexual desires and things that turn her on. Dirty talk is not just about words, it can be sighs, moans, grunts and other physical activities that will make her get increasingly aroused.
Even an eye contact or speaking out something that she loves or something that will make her pounce on you too can be part of a dirty talk. According to researchers, couples who communicate during sex are more likely to experience greater sexual satisfaction.
In other words, engaging in a conversation is sure to heighten sexual experience. Dirty talk is all about giving gentle and encouraging directions, telling your partner to continue or do what he or she feels good about. Women like listening to dirty talk because it reflects the confidence levels of the man who she is in bed with.
Get Icy
Using ice during lovemaking is not new. But we are not suggesting popping an ice cube between your mouths during a deep kissing or using it over your mouth before going down on your partner to give him or her a cooling sensation.
But you can use an ice cube to run over your partner’s entire body to let him or her enjoy hot and cold sensations during foreplay which is sure to provide an exciting sensual experience.
Running it along the length of the body with your tongue can be a great experience. Alternatively, you can buy an ice cream and rub it on your neck or other parts of your body. Ask your partner to lick it completely. This can be a delicious way to enjoy good time in bed with your partner.
Send a racy text
Sending a racy or dirty text an hour before your actual lovemaking can make your partner’s hormones ready for a steamy session.
Sending something like ‘I can’t wait to eat your lollies’ or ‘love to stick my tongue deep into your extra juicy donut’… texts like this can can set him or her horny momentarily.
A simple but horny texts messages can set the tone for an intense encounter.
Try handcuff or use a rope
If you both are unfamiliar with bondage sex, then it is worth trying. If you are not comfortable with using a proper handcuff or a rope, then you can try with your tie or a hand kerchief for the first few times.
You can start off by wrapping their wrists over a chair and then go down on him or her. You can start off small and then with your partner’s consent and then tie them over the bed corners for a more intense action.
Slowly, but steadily you both can surprise each other and then enter the bold and beautiful world of BDSM and then explore more intense options to take your sex life further.
Blindfold can be a simple but an exciting experience when it is tried with your partner’s consent. Closing the visual sensory can open up other sensory aspects of your body during lovemaking leading to unexpected and enormous pleasure.
The other sensations of the body intensifies giving an extra electric effect while you touch, nibble, bite or touch. When your partner is blindfolded, it will make him or her go into a state of hopelessness as you can freely explore their body without their anticipation.
This will give you an animalistic instinct allowing you to indulge in lovemaking with an added energy. Blindfolds are simple and the amount of thrill that it will bring in is enormous.
As he or she becomes clueless about your next move, it will create a sense of curiosity adding a special feeling of happiness to the whole act.
Nibble and bite
Nibbling and biting during lovemaking is a sign of intense passion. When it is done in moderation upto pleasurable level, it can be naughty and arousing.
But when you tend to go overboard and make painfully hard bites, then it can drain the mood leading to unpleasantness for your partner.
It is better to test the waters during your first time and slowly increase the intensity as your partner gets used to it. Using your teeth over your partner’s lips or shoulders or other body parts can be really kinky when it is done upto a pleasurable level.
Give a relaxing massage
Nothing can make your partner relax physically than a sensual massage. Make massage as part of your foreplay.
You can give him or her a sensual massage using lubes, oils and other stuff that you both are comfortable with. Giving him or her a whole body massage can be both relaxing and enjoyable.
It can set the mood for your partner to be ready for an intense lovemaking session. It is essential that you both need to be completely naked during the massaging to make it exciting.
Using a new and sexier costume can turn things really ON for both partners. When you show up in a specially designed role play costume like a doctor-nurse combo, French maid, school girl costume etc.,
It is sure to trigger sexual fantasies that are lying dormant in the mind of your partner. These costumes not only add a fresh change to your sexual routine, it will also set the mood for both partners to live their fantasies and nothing can match that feeling.
An opportunity to unleash your deep rooted sexual fantasy can lead to a liberating experience. You can use these costumes during special occasions, or just on any regular day when you want to flare up your sexual desires.
Spank it hard
Spanking can be hot and sexy. It can turn your partner ON, if he or she is not used to it. Spanking is sure to widen your sexual experience as it can inflict mind pain and a sudden jerk to your whole body.
When you want to go little harder, better to speak with your partner and then indulge in it. You can use your palm or a spanking pad or even a flogger to inflict the right amount of pain.
Overdoing can kill the fun. So, know the limits and make sure your partner enjoys it.
Pull the hair
Pulling hair of your partner during lovemaking shouldn't be underestimated. You can pull your partner's hair particularly when he or she is going down on you.
You can run your fingers through the hair and get a firm grip and then pull it gently. The trick is to make him or her feel good and not hurt. Grab the hair as much as you can with your hand and then pull it up.
Make it noisy
Sex gets better when it becomes noisy. Yes, express your happiness and how good you feel by making moans.
There is no need to curtail yourself and you can be as loud as possible. When you show how good you feel during lovemaking, it is going to arouse your partner more.
If you want to reduce the sound, you can just shut the windows and add rubber bush to your cot legs to reduce cranky sound.
Masturbate before your partner
Masturbating in front of your partner requires loads of boldness and confidence. But pleasuring yourself while your partner watching it can be deeply empowering and it will build trust.
While doing it, look into your partner's eyes directly and allow him or her when they offer to participate to speed things up. This can improve your sexual compatibility leading to better sexual encounters in future.
Try new positions
To break from your routine and to experience varied pleasures during lovemaking, you both should try new positions.
Missionary is not the only sexual position and you both can try many kinky sex positions that are not tried till date. There are numerous guides available online for couples to try various positions.
You both can try positions that you both are comfortable with and try one after another every time. Choose few and ear mark few for important days.
Try anal
Trying the back door entry can be a real kinky idea when you both get it right. Ofcourse it requires some preparation and discussion, and loads of lubricant.
But the experience is worth trying as it will provide a new level of sexual experience for both partners.
Watch porn together.
It is natural for adults to enjoy watching porn. Allow your partner to enjoy the sensual show along with you.
Watching porn together can be an amazing experience as you both can turn the attention towards each other quickly leading to a steamy action. It can also give an opportunity for each other to know the likes and dislikes of your partner.
You both can watch wide range of porn together to understand each other's preferences during sex. When your partner refuses to watch, just cajole him or her for the first few times and then soon it will become an enjoyable habit for both of you.
Nothing can come closer to the amount of pleasure that one can experience during role play sex.
Every men and women develop sexual fantasies as they grow up. Their imaginations can change with changing circumstances and people they come across in their real life, but what is constant is the fantasy.
When you become a doctor, it is natural to fantasize about being with your nurse and it is vice versa when you become a nurse. Same is the case with several occupations.
It is not necessarily related to your occupation, it can be with men or women you come across from different walks of life.
Role play allows couples to experience their deep rooted sexual fantasies. Couples get an extra energy and intensity when they are having sex with their fantasized individual.
Even a rough person would like to play a submissive role in bed, which is possible only when he or she has agreed to indulge in the role play sex with him or her playing a submissive role and the other partner playing the dominant role.
There are many costumes available to allow couples to indulge in role play sex, as specially made role play costumes can make things close to reality leading to more excitement. The first step to role play sex is communicating openly with your partner and getting his or her consent.
Sex toys are known to provide intense stimulations and make your sex hard, intense and highly pleasurable.
There are numerous sex toys available online and couples can choose the ones that they both can use comfortably, such as edible panties, cock rings, butt plugs, vibrators, dildos etc., and ensure both enjoy the intensity of stimulation.
When both partners use sex toys without any inhibition, their relationship will become strong and they both can enjoy more pleasure during lovemaking.
Go Oral
Never discount the amount of pleasure that one can get during an oral sex. The amount of pleasure that you can give to your partner by going down is enormous.
Giving and receiving can both be highly pleasurable with oral sex. Oral can slow things down when you both are charged up allowing you to prolong your coital time by indulging in oral for a few minutes and then restart the thrusting action for a fulfilling sex.
Shower together
Shower can not only helps you get newer ideas about life, it can also help you enjoy a good time when it is done with your partner. Yes, we are suggesting you to have a shower with your partner.
It can be a real fun as you both can enjoy water dripping through your organs, adding soap to each other bodies etc., Whole lot of fun can unleash when you both shower together.
Needless to mention amazing sex that can happen inside the washroom.
Indulge in some strap-on fun
Penetrating your partner with a strap-on can help you experience a new level of excitement that it will be difficult to forget. Strap-on sex can be done both on top or at the bottom, by both partners.
With a strap-on you can take the bottom position or go on top, that’s the beauty of it. It is good if you can talk to your partner before indulging in. Make sure you have the right dildo and right lube to ensure there is no discomfort or allergic reaction post your action.
Strap-on can help you enjoy both vaginal and anal penetration. Adding plenty of lube is vital to make strap-on fun memorable.
Get a sex pillow
Sex pillows are the new addition to your existing range of sexual apparatus that are intended to make your sex life exciting.
Sex pillows allow you to get new angles to penetrate allowing you to experiment with your positions. It will also make it comfortable to your partner while you go hard on her.
You can also use the pillow while she is on top of you.
Have Period Sex
Periods should not curtail your sexual desire. Please note that period sex comes with lots of benefits such as increased lubrication, heightened sensitivity and no fear of conception.
Only thing that you both should be worried is the flow of fluid and the mess it creates aftermath. When you are worried about the mess, you can have period sex under a shower and then enjoy unlimited fun without any worries.
Roam around in a sexy lingerie
This is one of the simplest, but effective kinky sex idea to induce your partner to make him or her ready for the action.
Roam around in a sexy lingerie in your home can be a big turn on to your partner as you are communicating that you are ready for a strong action.
It can also become a sexy surprise for your partner as he or she may not have imagined you moving around in a sexy lingerie. It can also reflect your confidence and your interest to indulge in a steamy one.
You can even start off by removing your panty or underwear to your partner while having dinner to indicate what he or she is expected to do after dinner.
Simply through your eye movement and body language, you can communicate what you want your partner to do with you in a sexy lingerie.
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