Kissing is surely an awesome experience. But kissing for the first time can be very nervous for both boys and girls. First kiss is also a memorable one and the memories linger throughout the life as it is always a special one.

There will always be loads of anxiety and fear during the first kiss as you may not know how your partner would react. There would always be a dilemma about, will it become successful leading to more kisses in future or will it scare her and make her scream or run away from you. Chances of first kiss backfiring are little high as many people attempt either too early or too harshly out of anxiety.

There are quite a few things that you have to follow to make your first kiss a successful endeavor. We shall give you some pointers to help you make the right moves to ensure your first kiss a memorable experience for you and her.  

More than anything, you have to relax yourself completely before starting it. Be comfortable and stay completely relaxed. Don't allow fear or anxiety take over. Relax yourself completely and make her comfortable being in your company by saying few nice things.

Remember, there is nothing called a perfect kiss. Everyone is keen to make their first kiss a perfect moment. Movies have created an extraordinary imagery about perfect kiss. But, practically there cannot be a perfect kiss similar to what you see in silver screen. Any kiss that involves two loving people who lovingly kiss each other is a perfect kiss, irrespective of the location, state of mind, age or status. Your head positions may not be right, someone's breath may not be too perfect, heads may bump, or one could be too fast that the other may not be comfortable for a while.. Some things can go little wrong, still it can be considered as a perfect kiss as long as both partners enjoy it thoroughly. As long as the intention and emotions behind the kiss is good, the kiss will always be good and that is a perfect kiss for you. A perfect kiss can only be measured by the kissing souls and you don't have to just relive what is shown in movies.

There is going to be plenty of opportunities in future to get it right, even in case if you feel it is not up to what you expected. So, don't worry about giving or receiving a perfect kiss. Enjoy the moment and give or receive a kiss happily. Worry or anxiety may affect the quality of kiss and take away the excitement.

If you are worried about whether your first kiss may lead you to a make out, don't worry. Just give into that moment and enjoy your smooch for a while. A kiss may not necessarily lead you any further.

Before planning your first kiss, it is important to find a perfect place where you can spend some alone time with your sweetheart. When the place is chaotic or lots of people moving around, then there could be lot of distraction and that could ruin the moment. You have to find a nice, quiet place to plant your first kiss. So, here is how you can try

- See if you can give her a ride home from your school or work place.

- Go with her for a public event like a cricket match, movie etc., Flirt with her and see how she reacts being closer to you alone. Then you can find the right moment and take her to a quiet corner to execute your smooch plan.

- Never attempt your first kiss in the darkness of a movie theater. It is not morally correct, it amounts to doing something stealthily and most girls don't like it. So, after watching movie, take her home or visit her home or to any place where you both are comfortable and can find some privacy.

- If possible, take her on a date and this way you both are prepared and can find lot of alone time as you would be taking away to some serene location.

- If none of the above works for you, then you can try it inside your car at a secluded location.

- If you both are in a party, break away from the group to a quiet location and ask her to follow you.

- If both of you are keen on kissing, then you can find a quiet corner even in a busy mall or even in your apartment or elsewhere. That is bound to happen.

First kiss is one occasion for which you have to wait. Until the right moment arrives you should not kiss. But what is the right moment and when that will happen. Many couples would have returned from their first dates without kissing, because that 'kissable' moment would not have arrived. There is no thumb rule to clearly mention about that 'right moment'. It depends on your age, your personality, your upbringing and the stage of your relationship.

Starting your first kiss on the lips can be a terrifying idea. Some girls may find it too much to handle being the first time. So, you can gently kiss her hand, or give her a gentle kiss on the cheek and then slowly move onto full blown mouth kiss after a while. So, don't plan your first kiss to be a perfect French kiss.

Kissing Signals

But there are kissing signals that you should watch out for. When she is ready for a kiss she would send out signals non-verbally.

Body language is open - She may not fold her hands or look down at the floor. She would happily open her body up and make an eye contact.

She would wet her lips or open a lip balm - If she is using a lip balm or wet her lips with her tongue, she is surely making efforts to make her lips soft and supple. That is a sure sign that she is ready for a kiss.

See if she is looking at your lips occasionally - if she allows you to look at her lips and remains unconcerned about it, then it is a positive sign. We don't look at someone's lips on other occasions unless we want to kiss that person.

Not responding to physical touch - Touch her hands if you are walking or brush your thighs with hers when you are sitting closer or hold your hands if you are sitting opposite. If she is comfortable with your touch and not reacts to it by moving herself or showing signs of dissent, that is a good sign that she is ready to accept your kiss.

6. Don't worry if you feel nervous

It is quite normal to feel little nervous before you kiss someone for the first time. First kiss happens to people at different ages and their nervous levels too will vary with age. If you are kissing yourself someone for the first time who is shy or introvert, then you should make it a bit slow and rushing could affect the relationship adversely. You shouldn't force it and allow things to happen naturally. Despite your plan and use of right talk, things may not happen at the expected time. It's ok if it takes little extra time. Have patience and wait for the right moment.

If you want to kiss someone who is just your friend, you have to weigh your options and know how she might respond to your kiss. You can go for it only when you are sure that she too has developed similar feelings towards you and she is ready for a kiss.

What to do if she asks you to stop while you try to kiss her or she pushes you away and move out. You should respect all those as a sign that she doesn't want to be kissed at the moment. Don't rush or don't get offended. Give her time and allow her to contact you again. Wait for the right moment again.

Find out if she doesn't like to receive your kiss at the moment or she is just seeing you as a friend and she doesn't want the relationship to move any further. If you are serious about her, then you can try with her again and flirt with her at every possible occasion to win her heart. Otherwise, it is better to leave her and look out for the girl who likes you for your values and heart.

So, prepare yourself for your first kiss and have an awesome kissing experience.

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