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Awesome Kissing Tips
How to Kiss a Girl? Kissing Tips and Advice for Guys
Kissing is an art. It involved interplay of emotions and thus needs to be handled well. First kiss can be very exciting and emotional. If not handled well, a kiss could also break a budding relationship. Kissing too fast or too soon could become counter-productive. You need to wait for the right moment to throw your lips so that she can enjoy and may reciprocate.
You may think that you don't need any tips or advice as kissing is something that is natural. But you are wrong. What happens if you bump your head during the rush for a kiss? What will you do if she runs away screaming when you try to give her a kiss?
Don't worry! We don't mean to threaten you. We only want you to update you about the processes involved in giving and receiving an awesome kiss. Our tips involve finding the right time, where and how the kiss should happen and ways to make your kiss an enjoyable and romantic experience for you and her.
Hope you are clear. Let's go one by one.
PRE KISS TIPS
Before making an attempt to kiss her, make sure you are there within her comfortable space. Know beforehand that she allows you in her personal space so that she never minds you getting closer to her physically. You cannot forcefully grab her and kiss her. That could frustrate her and she might scream for help or push you aside or do something to keep you away… leading to unpleasant situations. Make sure she finds you comfortable being with and that is the first step for you to make an attempt. If you haven’t proceeded to that level, then you have to wait for some more time to gain her confidence.
Before making that big attempt, make sure your breath is fresh and without any foul smell. Brush your teeth well and use a good mouth wash to ensure your breath smells fine. If required us a mouth freshner, mint or a strong bubble gum. Also it is important to watch what you eat before you meet her. Smoking is big NO as most girls don't like the smell of nicotine. Avoid eating garlic, onions, coffee and tuna finish. Only thing to be careful is that your breath shouldn't smell bad, do whatever it takes to avoid that. Otherwise your beautiful love story would turn into a horror story for her and you could be heartbroken. So, check it before you smooch.
3. Wash your hair and smell good
Using a mouth freshner is not enough as kissing not just involves your mouth, it is a whole body experience, it is about presenting yourself completely to her and she needs to be comfortable with her in every aspect. So, take a shower and wash your hair thoroughly because there is always a chance for her to run her fingers through your hair when the kissing becomes intimate and extends for a little longer. You never know how it can turn out. But being prepared is always good.
Needless to say, make sure you use a anti-dandruff shampoo to remain dandruff-free. She should be comfortable being closer with you and even a slight discomfort may lead to unpleasantness and it might affect the mood and quality of your experience.
Use a mild body spray to give yourself a pleasant smell. Know that girls love boys who smell good. If you don't like a body spray, use a scented soap. You have to be careful with body spray. You just need sufficient quantity to get the right smell. Overdoing can make you look like a school boy and childish.
As you lean over to kiss her, your body odour should not make it uncomfortable to her to accept your advances. Remember, it is a special moment for her too and she too must be looking forward to it secretly. So, make sure you smell good so that nothing interferes with your act of kissing.
Give your lips a quick check before moving to your date. Ensure your lips are not cracked or dry. In such cases give them a balm and ensure it remains soft and supple, kind of kissable. Don't use highly fragrant lip balms and your lips might smell like strawberry, vanilla etc., Don't embarrass your girlfriend by using a strong balm as no girl would ever expect her man to smell like a fruit. She might lose interest and you could become a laughing stock.
KISSING TIPS
What you talk and words you say about her can go a long way in opening the doors for a quality kiss. Giving her positive and genuine compliments about her can ignite her to accept your lips.
- Bring up a conversation about what she told you previously about her likes and dislikes so that she can understand that you had paid attention to her talks and you are interested in her.
- Compliment her about specific things you find in her, may be about her dimple, the way she smiles, her hairstyle, her eyes or how she reacts nicely when you say something good about her. Your compliments should be genuine and should come from your heart. Remember, she can find out if you fake it by any means. The more genuine compliments are, better are your chances to make inroads in your kissing agenda.
- Give her time to express her liking towards you. Don't rush. If you are in a hurry, things will not work. You may have to give sufficient time to win her confidence and kissing starts only when you create a moment of intimacy and love.
Compliments will make her comfortable. You can enter her personal space only when you win her confidence. Start your approach slowly and genuinely. Then enter her personal space and then prepare her for a kiss. Preparing her for a kiss means you should show your intentions clearly through your body language and she will clearly know that you will kiss her, but still she will be prepared and wait for that moment.
Don't rush and head straight to her lips hurriedly. Before you begin your kiss, give some mild body contact like touch her hands, pat her back or rub her shoulders. Keep it natural and don't overdo. Don't make it artificial either. See how she reacts and if she is not comfortable and reacting differently, know that she is not ready for a kiss.
Before you kiss, try some light body contact to see how open she is to having you in her personal space. Keep it natural, but also be observant: what is she doing? How is she responding to you? If she’s not open to physical touch, then she’s probably not ready for a kiss.
- If you happen to sit next to each other at a movie theatre or park or in a restaurant, slightly brush your hands with hers, or keep your knees touching her legs. Notice her reaction. If she allows your arms or legs touch hers, you could put your arm around her shoulder or hip and give her a mild hug. If she is leaning towards you that is a good sign to plant a kiss. If she is shying away or reacts sharply by moving her hands or legs away, that is a sign that you should stay away.
- If you both are walking and standing at some place, try touching her casually. Hold her hands softly and see how she reacts. If she holds your hand firmly that is a very positive sign that she likes you.
- This doesn’t need any more elaboration. Whatever you do, make sure she likes your touch and reacts positively before you plant a kiss. Pushing your way and forcibly kissing you is not a good way to start your kiss with your girl. You need to build up a tension and prepare her for the kiss so that it becomes an enjoyable affair.
8. Make eye contact
When you know that she is ready to accept your kiss, look into her eyes deeply. An intense eye contact is important before a kiss. A clear eye contact for a few seconds or a little longer will let you both know that something exciting is going to happen and both are prepared for it.
When you get close enough to kiss her, say something nice about her face or eyes or something good about her. Look into her eyes with love and compassion. This can trigger her to move into a romantic mood and both of you can blast off into a special lovers space and then proceed with your intimate kissing.
9. Kiss her with your mouth slightly open
As you both are romantically inclined, bend your head slightly and kiss her on her lips with your mouth slightly open. When your lips are parted slightly, it becomes soft and full. Kissing with a closed mouth will look like you are giving a peck what you give it to your grandma. So, slightly open your mouth and kiss her softly on her lips. Don't try to suck her lips soon after the kiss. Just feel her lips and enjoy the moment.
10. Tilt your head to avoid clash
When your erotic juices begin to flow, you tend to overdo due to hormonal rush and chances are that you could collide your head with hers. So, as soon as you begin to kiss her, tilt your head slightly sideways so that you are in a right position to prolong the kiss without hurting her.
Tilt your head in a soft and gentle manner and not like a robot working on some machine parts. Move towards her lips slowly and turn your head slightly away from her temple so that there is no collision. You could also bump your nose with her. In case if that happens, you laugh it off and tilt your head again immediately to proceed with your kiss. Don't be discouraged with a small slip up.
11. Close your eyes while kissing
Closing your eyes is important while kissing. It is a sign that you are enjoying the kiss. Alternatively, when you begin to enjoy the kiss, your eyes will close automatically. Closing your eyes during a kiss is a sign that you are in a trance due to the spell of that special experience given by her.
Don’t close it intentionally immediately after touching her lips. Closing too early makes look artificial and she may not enjoy the kiss thinking that you are faking it. Better, begin to enjoy your kiss genuinely and your eyes may close naturally.
12. Continue with your kiss as long as she participates
Once you both are on the game, continue the kiss nice and soft. Stop for a while look at her eyes and then do it again. Continue the kiss until she wants to part and don't force it even when you feel the urge to make it one more time.
If she agrees to continue, focus on her lower lips first and then move on to her upper lip. Gently caress her lower lip with your lips and if situation allows, gently take her lips into your mouth.
13. Ensure she wants to kiss you
A Passionate Kissing is a mutual expression of liking and love. When she allows her kiss is a sign that she is interested in the act. Ask her to kiss you back. When she is not kissing there could be two reasons. One could be that she must be feeling shy to kiss you. Otherwise she may not like you as you could have done something that is unpleasant to her while kissing. She could have changed her mind due to your misstep.
If she really wants to kiss you, she won't allow you to ask her for it. She would have kissed you back as soon as you finished kissing her. You should also remember that she could just be as nervous as you are and chances are that she may not be immediately receptive to your advances. It should not be taken as that she is not interested. You should make her comfortable and give her some time to kiss you back. Kissing too could be a scary experience during the first time for many girls.
You can pick up from her body language whether she really wants to kiss you back or not. See whether she is leaning towards you and saying No? In that case she is bit shy and little hesitant to kiss you back. You can get her to kiss you when you comfort her for a while. Find out if she facing away from you and saying a big NO. That is a clear indication that she is not interested to return the favour.
There is a thumb rule to know whether your girl is really interested in the act of kissing. You should lean 90% and she can come forward the other 10%. That is a sign that your kissing is mutual and she perfectly enjoyed it. In this way, you need not ask her to give you a kiss, as she has already giving it to you and in all likelihood she would kiss you back the moment you stop your kiss.
14. Don't use your tongue immediately
If you are kissing her for the first time, don't let the excitement go overboard and allow your tongue to play a role. Ensure your tongue remains in its position quietly and don't ever allow it to waggle out of its closet. Never use your tongue during your first kiss even though you keep your mouth slightly open. Invite your tongue into the party only when you both are accustomed with each other's lips for a while.
15. Sneak your tongue in gently - never thrust it hard
If you both are already been kissing for a little while, both are comfortable at it, then it’s time to invite your tongue to the party. Don’t force your tongue hard. Use it wisely and gently. Forcing with your tongue is not going to give you any extra pleasure.
Once you're into the kiss, slowly slide the tip of your tongue into her mouth and smoothly caress her lips for a while and then pull it to your mouth with your tongue. You can repeat it for few times. Never try to stick your entire tongue into her mouth and push it further in. In case if she inserts her tongue first, welcome it with your tongue gently and you return the favour. Never ever do it forcibly. The experience may not be very pleasant.
Don't have too much saliva in your mouth before kissing. Clear it before starting your kiss. Otherwise it might hamper the pleasure. During your lip lock, when you happen to have more than manageable levels of saliva, swallow it. Having excessive saliva can make your kissing an uncomfortable experience.
POST KISS TIPS
16. What to do with your hands?
While I am kissing her with my lips, what to do with my hands? This is a natural question. When you both are passionately kissing, it is difficult to keep your hands down in its position. Kissing is a full body experience and the energy will traverse from mouth to face and to whole body as well. Even though hands have no direct role in kissing, it can play a major role in making your kissing experience an enjoyable and memorable one. There are ways to use your hands during kissing to make it work wonders for you.
There are many things you can do with your hands while you are kissing your partner.
- Touch her neck and face gently with your hands. You can give a passionate rubbing.
- Put your hands behind her back or around her waist to pull her closer to you so that you can kiss her well.
- Gently caress her breasts and hair to make her feel comfortable in your hands.
- Give her a passionate hug with your hands as soon as you finish your kissing. You can hold her on your shoulders with your hands firmly encircling her body.
What to do after finishing your kiss?
Just Smile. Give her a hearty smile. Yes, as you pull away from your kiss, you need to give a good smile as it is important to let her know that you enjoyed your kiss with her. There is nothing funny about it. You just need to give a big smile.
Don’t try to say anything artificially as it might not fit. The experience of kissing would have given her a kind of fulfillment that any artificial compliments may not fit into the scheme of things under such circumstances. After a hearty smile, give her a compliment and lean again to give another soft kiss as a way of saying 'thanks' for the wonderful experience. That is a way perfect to let her know that you enjoyed kissing her and receiving her kiss in return.
Look at her reaction and she would probably blushing with happiness and that is when you can compliment her with words such as 'You're so beautiful' and 'you are so sweet', 'I cannot forget your kiss' … You can use whatever may deem appropriate at that situation.
So, you have learned all important tips to make your first kissing experience a special and a memorable one. Hope this can go a long way in helping you enjoy a memorable kissing session with your partner.
Good luck!
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